DTR- Defining the Relationship

DTR – Defining the Relationship

18 October 2013

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A few months ago, I had what could have been a terribly awkward and painful first date.  When I described my angst over it, my girlfriend asked, “Well, did you DTR?”

“DTR?” I asked.  “What’s that?”

“It’s a BYU term.  DTR – define the relationship.”

 

No.  I hadn’t defined that relationship before the date.  Therefore, it was unclear and uncomfortable.

 

However, in thinking about DTR, I’ve concluded that, with men, it’s easy.

 

Either the chemistry is there, or it’s not.  When the phone rings and the name lights up on the screen, you feel butterflies in your stomach, or, you don’t.  Either you want to pick up, or you throw up a little in your mouth.

 

In general, DTR-ing is easy with people.  They naturally fall into categories like “family,” “friend,” “colleague,” or “service provider.”  Sometimes there’s overlap. 

 

But, with people, the relationship is clear.

 

With animals – not so much.

I’ve struggled to define my relationship with the furry four-leggeds that share my home. 

 

The term “owner,” makes me sound like a slave trader. 

 

They are not my children.

 

I accepted stewardship for them.

 

Pretty much, we’re a peaceful tribe. 

I have them.  And, they have me.

 

DTR = love.

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About hookershorde

I am a school teacher, animal advocate and rescuer, yogi, and happy!
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One Response to DTR- Defining the Relationship

  1. Juliann says:

    Nicely put. Love this post .

    Like

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